I have a problem, it’s the complete inability to say no. Last month the inability to say no saw me helping out at four different functions, baking a batch of cakes and reading out loud at a meeting.
I don’t mind reading out loud, but when it’s in front of a huge bunch of people quite frankly I’m quaking. So why didn’t I say no, I have absolutely no idea. I was warned I was going to be asked so I can’t even plead the excuse of surprise.
As soon as I saw the person walking towards me my stomach did a little flip-flop whilst I quietly groaned, ” aah just the person I was wanting to see, you couldn’t possibly do a little reading for us today could you?” he asked, although my head, heart and everything else was screaming “NOOOOOO! Run for your life quick!” I felt my mouth say “yes that’s fine, no I don’t mind at all.”
My brother finds my inability to say no hilarious, as far as he’s concerned no should be the first words on your lips, but should it though?
When I helped out at the functions last month I met loads of different people, at the end of the day I was exhausted but it’d been fun and I’d got to have a good natter with the other volunteers.
The same goes for the reading too. The thought of reading out loud in front of people is dreadful, but once I’m up there it’s not so bad and the build up feelings of dread are great writing research! If any of my characters need to do something they are terrified of I’ll definitely know how they’re feeling. 🙂
Maybe it’s not just a matter of saying yes or no but a matter of taking yourself more seriously and carrying a diary that you can check. Making sure you write everything in it, if you write every Saturday between nine and ten pencil it in, so that you can legitimately say I’m sorry I’m busy before ten, but after that I’m free.
Has the inability to say no dropped you in anything you’d rather it hadn’t?